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How to Avoid Divorce – Premarital Seminar
Today’s show not our typical, boring, money-type stuff. It’s actually about divorce. The reason we do talk about this on a Money Matter Show is because divorce is truly the worst financial decision that one could ever make in their entire life. It will absolutely cripple you.
I have heard all the jokes. Why is divorce so expensive? Well, because it’s worth it. In some cases, maybe it is. If you’re in a horrible relationship. But the financial piece of this is something you have to think about long and hard. Just from a personal stand point, if you tried hard enough, you can make it work. Somebody told me recently that if you put as much time into your marriage as you do put into your work, you’d probably just as successful in your marriage. So, think about all that stuff.
And today, we’re bringing on Colleen McNamee from McNamee Mediations. She’s going to talk about how to avoid divorce through proper planning and communication. Now, typically, she’s a mediator, and she facilitates in ending a divorce, I think in a little bit better manner that going to courts, and a heck of a lot cheaper, that’s for sure.
But again, today we’re going to talk about mostly focused in on how to avoid a divorce. So usually, we sit and talk about how to facilitate the end of a divorce. I’m glad we’re coming on here today to talk about the opposite end and how to avoid it completely. And I know you do a couple things through your practice. One is you have a marriage contract that you focused in a lot on, and that’s helped I guess quite a few people from the conversation we had, and two, you have a pre-marital workshop. So before we get into all this other part of the show, can you tell me a little bit of both of those and what exactly they entail.
So, there are two different things that I’ve created kind of over the course of having my practice, because oftentimes I do come across couples who are looking to prepare for marriage and want to avoid divorcing later, which is where the pre-marital workshop came from.
The pre-marital workshop is a 3-parts seminar where it’s me and the couple though. It’s a one on one thing. It’s not like it’s a bunch people sitting in a room. And I meet the couple and give them a worksheet to complete. And what that worksheet is, is the things over the course of my life as a family-law attorney-mediator that I have noticed have been the direct, reoccurring causes for divorce. There are topics such as “Do you want children?” and then there are subcategories under there. If you say no or you both say no, then you don’t have to fill out the subcategories. But the worksheets that you fill out individually, and oftentimes when I get them back, there are diverging answers.
The things that I am asking in the worksheets are not things that you typically, during this happy dating stage, would think of asking either for fear of it just being weird to talk about or things that aren’t just in your mind, because you’re loving each other and you’re in this like honeymoon stage of just anticipating your wedding and what a bliss thereafter.
And so the purpose of this is not a religious one like you would get going through a premarital counselling at your church, or a therapeutic one that you would get by working with a therapist. This is more a premarital workshop from a legal standpoint to help you avoid legal obstacles that could cause the demise of your marriage down the road.
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